Wednesday, March 6, 2013

On the subject of Sleep-overs

As a Mum, what is your opinion on how old a child should be before he or she can have sleep-overs at friends houses?  Or would it depend on the child? 

My 2 sons are now in school and of course the subject of sleeping over at friends houses is rearing its (ugly) head.  My boys are 6 and 7 and have been invited a couple of times to sleep-over.  It is something that is really niggling at me because I feel they are still too young, but it seems like maybe I am a bit of an odd duck feeling like this?  Am I (horror) one of those way over protective Mothers?

I'd love to hear some of your thoughts on this topic too!





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10 comments:

JOLI said...

My son had his first sleep over (well it was his friend whom we've know since they were both 3 sleeping over at our place) last year when he was 8 - grade 3. Prep and grade one seem still a little too young to be having sleep overs - though perhaps I'm too over protective as well? I've heard of children having sleep overs during kinder. Depends on the parent, the child and how well they know the people who's house they'll be sleeping at.

Your Cheeky Monkey said...

Perfect, thanks Jodi. I was thinking that would be about within my personal comfort levels too xx

Cooker and A Looker said...

My girls are a long way off this, but I can understand your concern about sending them off.
I'd feel differently if I knew the parents though.
Cheers, Amanda
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Annaleis Topham said...

I really think it depends on the child. And not something I would do on the weekend because they get so tired. Have they had sleep overs at Nannas house yet? Always a good indicator if they will cope. I would start with the whole afternoon play and stay for dinner idea first.

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Robyn de Beer (Mrs D) said...

I think you have to go with what you're comfortable with. My son and his little friend (who know as a family very well) begged and begged for a sleepover when they were 4, so we decided to let him go and of course we ended up having to pick him up at bedtime. He is now 6 and has had a couple of sleepovers this year with absolutely no problem at all. My daughter on the other hand is almost 4 and a couple of weeks ago she stayed over at her little friend's house for the first time and was more than fine!! Again it was with a family we knew very well, so I knew it would be ok - but I have to say I did feel a little 'funny' about it and I don't think I would let her go anywhere where I don't know the family well.

♥.Trish.♥ Drumboys said...

My boys are 6.5yrs (yr 1) and I think I would have to know the family well - I am way too anxious (irrationally perhaps) about them staying even with family.
They have had one sleepover with friend i knew well who also had twin boys.It was for practical reasons not social.

Yvette @ Little Bento Blog said...

My daughter sleeps over at my sister's house alot she is 3.. however that is family. I am not sure I think 6-7 is a good age if they are ask.. are they 'best friends' or just 'friends from school'.. have they had playdates before? What do you think of the parents?

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Yvette @ Little Bento Blog said...

My daughter sleeps over at my sister's house alot she is 3.. however that is family. I am not sure I think 6-7 is a good age if they are ask.. are they 'best friends' or just 'friends from school'.. have they had playdates before? What do you think of the parents?

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Your Cheeky Monkey said...

Yes I do agree with you all, family and close family friends is a different topic isn't it. That wouldn't worry me so much, its the school friends that I don't feel so comfortable with. Trish you are a woman after my own heart! I'm a little irrational as well ;) Thanks for all your feedback, much appreciated xx

havealaughonme said...

I think it depends on how well you know the people he will be staying at, that is what I will consider. And also what the child wants. I'll also be prepared to go and fetch her at anytime! Good luck and can't wait to know what you do! Emily